Number one reason why you should consider an open relationship is that you want in your relationship true unconditional love, not the falsity that love comes with, not all the fear and obligation that love comes with. The love, the “quote-unquote” love that society has taught you this is what love is supposed to be, but what actual love is. You imagine what love is: your genuine desire for that person to be with the person that they love, admire, and adore, and to want for their happiness, well-being, and gain whatever that person does and wants and desires in a relationship or in their life. You want that for them.

Redefining Commitment: How True Unconditional Love Transforms Relationships Beyond Jealousy and Ownership

Now, I said whatever that person wants in a relationship, the equation also includes you in it, so it would require what they want in the relationship and what you want in the relationship. When you conflate that and it’s enough for you to be in it, it’s enough to merit your being together for most of the time, if not a lot of the time, then it’s a wonderful item, a wonderful consideration for a relationship without all the bogosity that what a relationship is supposed to come with, such as a lot of the obligations society puts you in, a lot of jealousy, and ownership. Remember that ownership and love are completely different things; sometimes they’re antithetical. Ownership is not love, but I say that for a reason. Why do you have to mention that? It’s obvious. Actually, it’s not so obvious. Actually, a lot of people imagine that love comes with ownership. All you have to do is ask them, or look in their language, or look in how they communicate. If they imagine that jealousy equals love and ownership equals love, there’s something wrong there. They imagine that if you’re not jealous, then how can you actually truly love the person?

But you’re the kind of person who says, “Love is my genuine wanting for my beloved’s happiness, the same kind of happiness that I want for myself. I want that for her or for him.” They want to go to school abroad; how can I help? They want to go hang out with some friends that are attractive and beautiful, or that they could enjoy something that they may not enjoy with you; how can I help? Or for whatever reason, I have to leave the country for six months. I’m going to miss you, but I have to do this for myself, for my self-actualization. How can I help? Or, “I’m going to go hang out with a buddy of mine I haven’t seen in years, whom I’m tremendously attracted to. I would love to take to bed. We used to be a thing, and I kind of miss those times.” How can I help? Do you understand the unconditional love that says my wanting for my beloved’s happiness is intrinsically tied to my own happiness? What makes her happy, fulfilled, and actualized, I want that for her or for him. Unconditional love.

Escape the Pretense: Embrace the Liberating Power of Non-Judgmental Acceptance in Open Relationships

The second thing you want in a relationship, which is a reason you should consider an open relationship, is non-judgmental acceptance, your ability to be yourself in a relationship and stop having to pretend. The reason why people don’t get along in relationships is they constantly have to pretend. They constantly have to pretend to be someone that they imagine the person they’re with wants them to be. All parties, this is true for virtually all relationships, because virtually all relationships begin with the premise, “I grant myself to you exclusively in exchange for you granting yourself to me exclusively,” a business deal. They take each other for granted, and so stop having to pretend. Recognize from the outset that during the relationship, with non-judgmental acceptance, I accept you for who you are, and that you are going to be the person that you are. You’re going to be the man that you are, and you’re going to have man mannerisms and man interests, or you’re going to be the woman that you are, and you’re going to have woman mannerisms and woman interests, and woman biology and man biology. And you don’t have to assume that you don’t have to pretend you’re someone you’re not. You don’t have to pretend you have the biology that you don’t have. You don’t have to pretend you don’t have the desires that you do have. You can have the desires that you want. You can have the mannerisms that you have. You can be the person that you are entirely. I am non-judgmentally accepting. If I’m intolerant of those behaviors or a particular behavior, just don’t do it around me. It’s fine. I encourage you to pursue other people who you could be enjoying those things with. No one can fake a fetish. If you’re into something, go pursue it with other people. I’ll be here. I’ll be your best friend. We’ll be in a fantastic, wonderful relationship, a non-judgmental one, an unconditionally loving one, and an openly communicating one where if you’re pursuing something which I cannot provide, am not prepared to provide, and am not interested in, I encourage you to go out and find people who you could be spending time enjoying those things with. And I love you. Do you understand? Not just tolerance, but acceptance, allowing people to be the person they are so no one has to pretend.

Revolutionize Your Relationship: How Open Communication Can Shatter Lies and Unlock a Deeper Connection

Lastly, you want open communication. You don’t want all the lies, the bogosity, and the pretense in the relationship. You just want open and straightforward communication. You can communicate about anything because there’s no reason for you to hide anything. Do you understand what that means? It means, let’s give you a particular example. “Hey, baby, I saw this amazing gal or amazing guy. I met them, and they wanted to spend some time to get to know me, and I want to spend some time to get to know them. Is it okay if I go out tonight?” “Of course. Do you need a ride? Do you need a ride back? Do you have a safety device in case they’re not cool? Do we need a code so that I know that you’re safe? Send me your profile, send me their address just so I know where to pick you up if anything ever happens. Give me a call, and I’ll give you a ride back. How can I help? I love you, and I want for you to pursue things that you like that actualizes you. What are your safety precautions?” You understand. You want those three things: you want genuine unconditional love, you want nonjudgmental acceptance, no more pretending, and open communication, no more lying. You want those three things, and those three things just so happen to be only able to be facilitated in open relationships and no other format of relationships. If you have any questions, shoot me a comment or a message. I’ll talk to you in the next video and explain more of this. What that actually means is that these things can’t be facilitated in any other format of relationship.