What Is An OLNE Relationship?

An OLNE relationship style, founded by Rone John, is a style of open relationship built on a 3-part foundation system of relationships management. OLNE stands for an “Open Love Non-Exclusive” relationship. It’s 3-part foundation are non-conditional love, nonjudgmental acceptance, and open communication.

What separates it from other open relationship is its premise of the 3-part foundation and how it’s specifically defined and adamantly adhered to.

Non-conditional love is the idea that each partner genuinely desire for their beloved’s happiness which insists against exclusivity since that would inhibit their partner’s pursuit of happiness if that happiness is based on novelty at times.

Nonjudgmental acceptance is the appreciation of the individual within the relationship and encouraging their pursuit of their individuality especially when those things they’re pursuing aren’t in alignment with the relationship/partnership entity.

Open communication is each person’s facilitating transparent communication by ensuring there’s no fear of emotional or psychological punishment when communicating.

OLNE holds that these premise can’t be found or facilitated in any other format of relationship which is what makes OLNE a very unique style. The 3 foundations it espouses can facilitate a happy, loving and worthwhile relationship that partners can build a life and family upon.

Why OLNE Was Created

OLNE was created because of the missing ethical structure that open relationships have. By definition, open relationships take on many forms and styles, which can give it a bad perception. For this reason, open relationships have gotten “bad branding” as many perceive it as an itinerant to a “real” relationship, one without commitment, one that’s not serious, etc.

It’s creator, Rone John, was a dating coach, relationships consultant and now head trainer at Great Relationships University. Rone John uniquely has a background in organization leadership, management, and training. His experience made him “systems-oriented” as he utilized systems for personal development and achievement in his leadership coaching styles. He valued facilitating simple systems so it can be taught and trained into large organizations that went beyond him (being that his organization spanned 64 countries).

As a relationship consultant, he applied this “systems methodology” in relationship management and found the 3 primary foundational premise that must exist in relationship for it to facilitate persistently happy, fulfilling and sexy dynamics. 

The Foundations of OLNE

1. Nonconditional love
2. Nonjudgmental acceptance
3. Open communication

1. Non-Conditional Love: Commonly appreciated as unconditional love, non-conditional love is referred in this way for clarity. Non-conditional love is love one has for another without additional clauses or arrangements. It’s the purest form of love. OLNE holds that “love” is one’s genuine desire and wanting for their beloved’s happiness, well-being, and actualization.
   
   The part, “genuine desire and wanting” is an essential part of how OLNE is defined since this authenticity and wanting cannot be faked. There’s no escaping one’s demonstration of love. If it isn’t sincere, it will demonstrate itself.
   
   Furthermore, a genuine desire for the happiness of one’s beloved is the central tenet of OLNE. Any behavior which prohibits their partner’s pursuit of what they love, enjoy, and what makes them happy, are demonstrations of lack of love (e.g. jealousy, possessiveness, etc).
2. Nonjudgmental Acceptance: the appreciation that each individual will have their own likes, wants, desires, preferences, styles and mannerisms. So we accept them as they are, including their humanity (their biology and idiosyncrasies). 
   
   OLNE makes a delineation between acceptance and tolerance. ‘Tolerance’ is the arrogance of “letting it pass” despite one’s resentment of their behavior or being. Instead, Rone John advices one be intolerant so they can be accepting. The difference being, one that’s supposedly accepting but is tolerating, can’t truly be accepting. In essence, to be accepting requires one be intolerant. You must be clearly accepting of the person so that you can fully enjoy their company “resentment-free.” Those behaviors which you don’t accept, you must be intolerant so you can allow them to enjoy those things in another way or with another person if it requires.
3. Open Communication: each person’s ability to transparently communicate since there’s never a reason to need to hide anything outside of private commitments. Neither partners may facilitate a space of psychological punishment or emotional blackmail as a result of any communication as that goes against the open communication foundation. This fosters a very uplifting, empowering and positive environment of self-expression, love and acceptance.

What Makes OLNE Unique

OLNE holds that those aforementioned 3: non-conditional love, nonjudgmental acceptance and open communication are a unique combination that cannot be facilitated in any other format of relationship whether it be monogamous or polygamous for the following reasons:

1. They can’t admit to loving another as their partner would feel a betrayal or a lacking on their part. They imagine “love” is a property or possession-oriented dynamic and that the more one loves, the more the love for them would be diminished. 
2. They may accept a few parts of their partner but omit the parts that makes them human, i.e. their biology, requisite for variety, or anything which they enjoy but fear might compromise the “relationship entity.”
3. They cannot truly be themselves and communicate how they feel or think especially when it’s about attraction with other people for fear of psychological punishment, emotional blackmail or even physical harm.

OLNE is an ethically sound relationships management system that seeks to facilitate persistently happy and fulfilling relationships which anyone can build arrangements around. For a complete guide to an OLNE relationship, get the book, “OLNE” by Rone John which is a unique resource that’s created so that it can be shared with others easily.