Defining OLNE

OLNE stands for an Open Love Non-Exclusive relationship.

Open Love

“Open Love” is the aspect of OLNE that establishes that love must be non-conditional. We maintain that OLNE is, in fact, the only format of sexual relationships that can facilitate unconditional love.

For clarity, unconditional love is defined:

The love one has for another without added conditions.

The “added” part is important since one could argue, “all love is conditional – with the condition it’s THEM.”

Since we can’t love everyone  in significant and meaningful ways, we have to choose whom we love. Once we regard and value someone in that meaningful manner, we do not add conditions to maintain that love. 

This is what it is to “love someone for who they are.”

Non-exclusivity

Non-exclusivity is the essential byproduct of an open love relationship where we get rid of the idea of “property of people” as a part of the relationship – since humans can’t be property.

We establish that people within relationships maintain their freedom and by doing so would be the only way anyone in the relationship can receive the gratifying sensation that their partner or partners are with them by choice rather than by obligation.

Relationship Based on Love

By establishing that all parties are free and encouraged to pursue their options without any degradation of love from their beloved or retaliatory emotional or psychological punishment, makes OLNR the only format of a relationship that is primarily based on love. 

We hold that any relationship that have exclusivity or punishment from pursuing things, and people, they value (to love can be tantamount “to value”), cannot get the gratifying sensation of real love and desire since the relationship is bouyed simply by obligation rather than free-choice.

To Love Is To Value

The word, “love” has as many definitions as there are people you ask. Another way of seeing this is that “love” has no meaning (since there’s no one definition anyone can attribute to it).

A consistent theme of love is one who another values – whether it be a thing, person, or concept. This can easily be tested: think of anything you love as something you don’t significantly value. 

The 3 Pillars Of ONLE

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is one’s genuine desire and wanting for their beloved’s happiness, well-being and actualization, regardless of their involvement.

One may easily recognize behavior that demonstrates unconditional love or lack thereof, by whether the desire (and therefore the encouragement) exists for their beloved’s pursuit of what makes them happy and actualized especially if it’s with other people.

Nonjudgmental Acceptance

Nonjudgmental acceptance is the wholehearted acceptance and appreciation of the individual free from moral judgments.

It’s the recognition that each person is the culmination of the complex interactions between genetics, neurobiology and environmental influences and have little, to no, free-will. The appreciation of this rids the relationship of blame, criticism or punishment and weaves into it radical compassion and empathy.

This dynamic of nonjudgmental and freedom from criticism facilitates a relationship where each person may be themselves and wholly accepted. If the relationship exists, it’s because they’re accepted rather than tolerated.

Open Communication

Open communication is each person’s ability and facilitating open communication where no secrets need be hidden since there’s no need for them. 

It’s a transparent platform of relationship between persons where they can be themselves entirely without fear of punishment or emotional blackmail.

Benefits of OLNE

Belonging

“Belonging” is a misnomer. Since humans cannot be property, at least not in recent years, one cannot “belong” to anyone, at least as property, which the standard models of relationships suggest.

Only ‘we’ can say we belong TO someone WHEN we feel the sensation of “longing” for them. 

OLNE relationships ensure that the notion of ownership is eschewed entirely so that anyone in the relationship is gratified in knowing that their partner are only with them because they want to, not because they’re obligated to.

Therefore, the feeling of belonging, in an OLNE relationships, is real, genuine and true.

Maturity and Personal Development

An OLNE relationship incentivizes parties to pursue personal, relational growth and maturity because we get rid of obligation. Therefore, one only remains in an  OLNE relationship if it merits it (all parties involved desire to be in the relationship). 

It propagates that relationships can never utilize the “bait and switch” model of relationship where one partner promises a dynamic and once that social contract is secured whether by legal or social contract, that they may no longer have any incentive to maintain their promises and commitments.

OLNE creates a space of real interactions and open communication so that the relationship can best merit its existence. Partners are incentivized (in order to maintain the relationship) to be moral, ethical, loving, supportive, kind, compassionate, sweet and healthy so the relationship continues to merit its existence.

Deepened Intimacy and Understanding

OLNE incentivizes partners to maintain a truly worthwhile long-term relationship through endeavors that deepen intimacy. To clarify the terms:

• A worthwhile relationship is one deserving of time, effort and resources.
• Intimacy is how well one knows another.

In order to maintain the merit of an OLNE relationship which is entirely free from obligation of any parties to remain in it, individuals must pursue manners, formats and platforms which they can deepen their intimacy – since intimacy is the “glue” which keeps free-relationships together (just like the same reasons best-friends simply love being with one another without requisites for contractual obligations).

This incentivizing of deepening intimacy between partners is the real mechanism that makes relationships inextricable without the necessity of social or legal contracts. Each person just loves being with the other, naturally, biologically, emotionally and psychologically. This “deep understanding” and nonjudgmental acceptance are found only in lifelong relationships which require no ‘work’ to maintain. Instead, the desire to be with one another is the underlying mechanism.