July 18 2020

How to be Happy With Who You Are and What You Do

Rone John Psychology identity, personaldevelopment 0

How To Be Happy With Who You Are and What You Do

Uncovering The Lies About Happiness and Personal Freedom

Did you know that you grew up believing 2 lies told to you by “grown-ups” that stop you from being happy?

About the Author: Rone John is the founder of Great Relationships University, owner of Tantra Therapy Las Vegas, Author of Relationships 101, 13+ years dating & relationships consultant and former professional Dominatrix.

“Sublime” Happiness

To have something as sublime; is to

have something with such grandeur and beauty that it’s awed and admired or,
a high degree of moral, spiritual purity, or excellence.

“Sublime Happiness” is pure, unadulterated, admirable and grand happiness.

2 Lies You’re Told About Happiness

As you were growing up, you were told 2 lies about happiness:

that “happiness” was something you have to work hard to get. The more you suffer, the bigger the happiness that you’ll get.

All the gurus and the social media influencers will tell you you’re not good enough (so buy their product).

They’ll tell you you’re not getting what you want in life because you’re not working hard enough.

Think about this: most inventions were created because people want to do things easier. In the 1930’s, John Atanasoff built the first digital computer. He said, “I was too lazy so I built a computer.”

Here’s the Truth: you can be happy NOW just by deciding to. And you can be happy ON THE WAY to going after your goals.

The Second Lie You’re Told

2. that you’ll only become happy after you get success.

This is the reason you hear people say:

I’ll be happy WHEN ____________

They say things like, “I’ll be happy when I get the dream job,” “I’ll be happy when I get the dream partner,” “I’ll be happy when I make my first million dollars,” “I’ll be happy when I get that gig.”

And then YOU know A LOT of people who have all those things that still kill themselves, are depressed, hate their lives, etc.

We call those THINGS, the “Trappings of success”.

We call them trappings of success because they don’t actually make you happy but they definitely can make you miserable just by having to keep up with the image of having them.

How To Really Be Happy

Happiness is a choice. It’s something you can be RIGHT NOW just by CHOOSING to be happy.

Think about this: You can’t fake happiness!

You can smile and make everyone looking at you think you’re having a good time.

But happiness, you can’t fake.

If you try to fake happiness, that moment you’re feeling the feeling of happiness, even if it’s just in that moment… that’s real happiness.

Then you realize, you were happy because you chose to be.

And you can CHOOSE to be happy ALL the time! When you are happy all the time, even when bad things are happening around you, then you are “enlightenedly” happy!

Check out our online course on enlightenment, happiness and building great relationships.

How To Be Happy Being You

There are 3 ways most people are validated (and there’s a 4th more powerful way that is more rare).

validation;

recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile.

In other words, to validation is when you feel something is valid, valued and worthwhile.

SELF-VALIDATION is when you feel you’re valid, valued and worthwhile.

The 3 ways people get validated are:

The Follower Type – is validated when they do what they’re told (they do what they’re supposed to do)… then they feel valid, valued and worthwhile.

The problem with the follower is if you play by other people’s rules, you can never win. Followers have no control over their life because how they feel about themselves is dictated by the rules other people give.

2. The “Leader” Type – is validated when they others do what they tell them.

The problem with the leader type is if people stop following them (or getting likes, hearts, comments on their posts) they lose their sense of self-validation. They’re not actually in control of their life!

3. The misfit – doesn’t get validated by doing what they’re told or other people following them.

The “Self-Validated” Person

Then there’s the 4th kind of person: The “Independent”.

This person is validated only by the results of their decisions. They don’t care for the validation or the negativity from others.

No one else can say they’re valid or not valid, valued or not, worthwhile or not. Only they validate themselves.

They get their validation from the outcomes of their decisions. If they make mistakes, they’re validated from it and learn how not to do something. When they get the outcome they wanted or better, they’re happy and validated by that!

For you to be happy being you, and doing what you do, you only have to know 2 things:

You have a good reason doing what you do and being who you are, and
You are validated by no one else but yourself. When you make a mistake, you’re validated by the lesson you get from it.

And you do all of this while choosing to be happy!

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July 18 2019

2-Step Formula Destroys Self-Doubt

Rone John Psychology confidence, personaldevelopment, selfdoubt, selfesteem 0

Self-doubt is easily managed and eradicated with a combination of these two things:
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The definition of self-doubt is: your lack of confidence in yourself and your abilities.

Consider and apply the following intently and you\’ll never have an issue with self-doubt again…

1. Have appropriate self-esteem.

Self-esteem is your self-estimation. When your estimation about yourself [and your abilities] are aggrandized, made up, not demonstrated, and you\’ve not proven to yourself is true, then your self-estimation is inappropriate and sets you up for disappointment.

2. Align your self-esteem with your \’self-confidence\’.

Your self-confidence is what you\’re confident about yourself – meaning, it\’s what you know about yourself.
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Remember always the meaning of confidence:

\”the state of certainty about the truth of something.\”

With that in mind, \”confidence\” is never something you have to bolster or aggrandize or bring \”up\” about yourself… confidence is whatever you know to be demonstrably true! And self-confidence is that knowledge about yourself, demonstrably.
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So, when your self-esteem (what you estimate about yourself) is ALIGNED with your self-confidence (what you know to be true about yourself because you\’ve proven it and demonstrated it to yourself), then you\’ve got the fantastic formula to eradicate self-doubt.
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From here forward all you have to do is have appropriate self-estimations, and increase your self-confidence through making attempts at things and proving to yourself WHERE your confidence lies… and deciding for yourself whether getting better at that thing is a worthwhile endeavor for you or not.
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And if it\’s a worthwhile endeavor, you continue to make attempts with every attempt resulting in your learning, and therefore BROADENING your self-confidence and INCREASING your self-esteem!
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Ultimately, if you deem for yourself you want to become world-class at anything, your goal isn\’t to make less mistakes. Your goal is to make more mistakes than anyone and discover more ways not to do it wrongly. That\’s what makes you extraordinary!

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